During the second trimester I
became concerned about the was my OB/GYN was treating this pregnancy.
She was not giving me the attention and care I wanted. Having had
the miscarriage and now carrying multiples made me very uneasy.
However, this doctor's attitude throughout my prenatal care was
nonchalant. Because I looked fine on the outside she decided to
treat this pregnancy as a singleton.
I asked her several times about having extra tests and visits
but she said "no". Everything I researched on
pregnancy and multiples and stated that one is considered at high
risk because there could be double the complications. Thus, this
was not a normal pregnancy because a normal pregnancy involves
only one baby. I mentioned this to my doctor but was told that
I was not high risk. Not pleased with this I wanted to leave and
wanted a physician who would support my emotional needs. I requested
to be transferred to a very well known downtown high-risk birthing
centre but was refused the chance and was told that nobody would
take me seriously for a request like that. She discouraged me
from leaving and kept saying everything was "normal".
She made me believe everything was fine. When it came time
to deliver, I was told to delivery natural as Twin A, Matthew,
was already head down. My concern was not so much Twin A but Twin
B, Steven, who was breached. I was open to a c-section and brought
it up many times but was told that since the babies were in different
amniotic sacs a vaginal delivery was best, that it was "safer
for the mother and a faster recovery". I was not happy
with these decisions but I put my trust in this doctor, thinking
she was the 'professional' and knew best. I took every possible
precaution to ensure a healthy pregnancy and even left work six
weeks prior to the due date to stay off my feet.